Thursday, January 15, 2009

Better Days Ahead

Lately I've been having a really tough time with Giuliana. First, it's an adjustment for all of us that she is so extremely different from Tia. I know parents aren't supposed to compare their children, but these two couldn't be more opposite. I've had to accept that Gia will have temper tantrums, loves to get into things, and likes to make messes.
But, for some reason, this week has been particularly difficult for everyone. I don't exactly know why, but I've been at my wits end. It's embarrassing to admit, but I actually called D.R. at work yesterday and asked him to come home. I found myself losing my patience, and I was feeling bad for Tia who was quietly getting left in the shadow of her sister.
How can this sweet angel face cause so much pain and frustration? She's my baby and I'm supposed to be enjoying this time while she's little. Instead, I've been exhausted and frustrated, and not looking at her with the adoring eyes of a mother.
I decided a couple of things just have to change. Here's what I started today, on day 1 of my journey to a better relationship with my daughter.

First of all, I got a good nights sleep. I have to make sure I am taking good care of myself, so I can take care of my children. That means, plenty of sleep, making sure I eat good meals, and staying generally healthy.
Also, I gave her lots and lots of Mommy time. We played A LOT. I was keenly aware of keeping her engaged. That means not cleaning up while the kids are eating lunch. I sat at the table with them, even though I really wanted to vacuum! I even had her at the stove with me while I was making dinner. As you can see from the picture, she was apparently making potato surprise.

It worked. We had an incredible day with no tantrums or screaming. Yes, it was tiring to be constantly playing with the kids and entertaining, but not nearly as exhausting as the long days of tears and break downs.
It's so nice to see her smiling face again. I hope the steady stream of tough days are behind us now.
Here's how the girls ended the day. No fighting. Just togetherness.


Amy Jo said...

Hey... I spent some serious time with my kids today too...playing and pretending and allowing the little hands and feet and bodies jump all over me. It was wonderful not to hear the "Mommy, this. MOmmy! Mommy! Look at me! ect" Nothing got done, but they had my full attention and it was lovely.

I'm also guilty of multi tasking with almost every breath, it seems. How else can I keep my house running smoothly? But one on one time is so precious too! Good reminders...

The Sugden Family said...

Good for you!! What a good Mom you are, you're girls are very lucky to have you!